Foster care
Carer guide
Brothers and sisters (siblings)
Supporting siblings who don't live together

Supporting siblings who don't live together

Helping children separated from their siblings

  • Be positive and supportive of relaxed and normalised family time - the earlier relationships are formed, the sooner siblings develop meaningful relationships with each other
  • Always refer to the child’s family respectfully
  • Encourage children to talk about their family
  • If the physical distance between siblings is challenging, support contact in other ways, for eg, letters, email, Skype, and phone calls
  • Use Life Story Work to record family time, including photos taken at visits
  • Seek out sibling support groups where they can meet with others in a similar situation (Children are often relieved to learn others have similar experiences to their own, helping them feel “normal”)
  • Invite siblings over to your home on a regular and relaxed basis, organise sleepovers and shared activities, get to know the carers of children’s siblings
  • Explore possibilities of children joining the same sports groups, after school care or vacation care programs during school holidays

Things your care team will do include

  • explain to the child why the decision to separate them was made
  • seek their views and feelings about the placement of their siblings and involving them in placement decisions
  • listen to their anxieties and fears
  • making sure they see siblings regularly and know the people caring for them as well as possible
  • involve them in planning how, when and where they will have contact
  • arrange counselling, if needed
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